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I remember a time, around last year or so, when my mobile carrier’s unsolicited texts are consuming my prepaid load. I didn’t remember subscribing to that service at all, maybe I did use their service one time, but there was no subscription implied.
The fact is — I have this problem. So common sense tells that I need to find a solution. I can think of two: (A) Change my SIM card, which is not ideal because I have to text all of my contacts, requesting them to save my new number, aside from transferring my contacts from my old SIM card to the new one. (B) Deactivate my subscription to the service — this one is definitely more efficient.
Since I don’t know any people I know who are having the problems like mine, might as well as search the net for the answer. First, I went to the mobile carrier’s website — I didn’t find anything about my problem there. I can’t recall if I contacted their customer service — all I remember is that they are not the ones who solved my problem.
Next stop, google search… And so I did… Then I stumbled upon this website, it looks like a reputable one. What’s surprising was — they identified the problem — but didn’t make any attempts to find a solution. I remembered there was a long list of comments of people whining, blaming and complaining.
If you’re not surprised, then it just confirms my theory — that there’s a lot of whining, blaming, and complaining out there — that it is considered normal already. Hey! Wait a minute! This post is starting to sound like one of those sites that I’m referring to… Let’s shift to — self-help/positive polarity/lessons learned mode.
But first — to continue the story. I left that site and went to the other websites listed by google — then stumbled upon a random website — and fortunately found my solution. Yippee!
If there’s a problem — there’s a solution. Remember that. Let’s repeat again with quotes and capitalized words this time, “If there’s a ‘PROBLEM’ — there’s a ‘SOLUTION’.”
“I get it! I get it! It’s all common sense right?” Yep, I know buddy. But I heard somewhere that common sense isn’t that common. Also, sometimes our feelings get ahead of us. The keyword is feelings. There are times when we get emotional. Those are the times that we bypass our reasoning abilities.
In addition to “feelings” getting ahead of “reasoning” (or thinking), here are some possible reasons why people don’t look for solutions:
- They figured out that their problem is not that important at all. Maybe they are right, but maybe not. Do realize though:
What is important is seldom urgent and what is urgent is seldom important.
–Dwight D. Eisenhower
- Sometimes they think their problems are an impossible case. (No it’s not. Remember: Every problem has a solution, even though we don’t know the solution yet. Keep looking.)
- By whining, blaming, and complaining they get attention and somewhat feel more powerful. Even though in reality they are not doing anything to solve their problem.
- They unconsciously realize that a specific solution is hard, that’s why they invent reasons on why it wouldn’t work, instead of doing what is supposed to be done — no matter how hard it is.
- They tried one possible solution then failed; after that, they concluded that there’s nothing they can do. Then, try a different solution. In addition, here are two quotes that might enlighten them:
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.
–W. L. Bateman
But let us remind ourselves that although every problem has a solution — not all solutions are equal. Some solutions are more efficient and cost effective than others. Also, solutions are not a magic pill — they require time, effort, and resources as well. If you’re willing to solve your problem though, then there is no obstacle or requirement that will be too great for you. You’ll do whatever it takes, like what Arnold Schwarzenegger did:
If there’s a “problem” — there’s a “solution.” Not convinced? Then, read the entire post — or just watch the video. 🙂