I’ve written about writing summaries before in this post (Item #2). Summaries are great in two ways:
- Summaries recap the main points of the post.
- Summaries can be of great help to busy readers who don’t have the time to read your full post.
When I started blogging, though, I haven’t gotten into the habit of writing summaries yet. In this post, I’m going to summarize five of my earlier posts that doesn’t have summaries. But first….
I’ve linked to my previous posts through the summary headers. Reading those posts, I would say that I could have written them better. So, don’t be surprised by their quality, just in case you tried to read them. 🙂
There are two types of criticism:
- Valid criticism
Is when people point out at our mistakes and flaws without an agenda. They are the ones who want us to improve.
- Criticism for the sake of criticism
Is baseless (illogical) and insignificant. People who get a kick out of putting others down does this type of criticism.
We remember the names of people who create things and add value to our lives, but not their critics.
The main idea behind the FOYS (Focus on YourSelf Principle) is we need to focus on our own lives instead of minding other’s business or personal lives.
FOYS does not mean that one must be selfish. On the contrary, if you set out to make your life better first, then you can better give back to other people.
There are three important areas in our life that deserve our attention:
- Relationships (family, friends, etc.)
We must make sacrifices today for a brighter tomorrow. Reflection is needed from time to time, noting if we’re doing better or not in our lives.
From the post itself:
Remember: Doing something is better than doing nothing. Some people like to make huge plans, they even get started, but after awhile, their initial enthusiasm is gone, and they go back to their old ways. Remember the story of the tortoise and hare? Being persistent leads to success.
There are two types of change that happen to people:
- External change
Change that gives visible results (e.g., better/healthier body, more money in the bank, etc.).
- Internal change
Emotional and mental changes that happen to us (e.g., having a more positive outlook in life, learning a new skill such as playing the guitar, etc.).
Neither is more important, for the reason that they affect each other. For instance, positive changes in our physical appearance can improve our emotional well-being (external to internal change).
Another example is when changing our outlook in life leads to better opportunities, such as meeting more people or earning more money (internal to external change).
We tend to compare ourselves to other people in areas of our lives such as wealth, looks, relationships, etc. In those cases, we can either be better or worse than other people.
Being on each side has its consequences:
- When we are inferior to others.
When we’re on the lesser side, we might feel jealous of the other person. In that happens, it’s better to shift our focus in making ourselves better so that we may improve our current situation.
In short, don’t get jealous, get better.
- When we are superior to others.
Our main challenge in this instance is that we may become complacent.
And when we’re complacent there’s a possibility that we’ll stop improving ourselves. When that happens, let’s look for inspiration or be challenged by people who have achieved greater things than us.
From the post:
Remember: Even though we may deem ourselves superior to others in a particular area, there is always someone better than us, whether that person lived in the past or is yet to be born in the future.
I wonder who summarizes a post about summaries. That makes this section unnecessary. (But I’ve written it anyway.) 🙂
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