It’s Okay to Be Selfish Sometimes

There was an incident in my life that I would never forget.

Some of you who are more adventurous might view what I would about to narrate as simplistic or normal. But that event itself changed the way I viewed the world — although not until many years after the event.

The story

I just came back to school after a while. Probably because of fever, but I’m not sure.

On that day my teacher gave me the raw materials to build an ornament which resembles a lamp.

As I was constructing the ornament, some of my classmates, who were not usually kind, approached me in a friendly manner to ask for some materials.

Being the naive kid I was back then, and not knowing how much material it takes to build the finished project, I gave some of my materials to my begging classmates.

As I would recall, I even heard our teacher say something like (translated to English): “You’ve wasted your materials yesterday, and now you’re asking Michael for some spare.”

Giving some (or most) of my materials away, I wasn’t able to finish my ornament. While the classmates who asked me for my materials, finished their project.

Kind of unfair, isn’t it?

First lesson to be learned

As the title of the post says, it’s okay to be selfish sometimes. Why? The reason is that there are times when other people will put their needs first before yours, even if it is to your disadvantage.

What if I didn’t gave my materials away, and as a result finished my project?

Sure, they may call me greedy or something, but to think of it isn’t justified.

To make an analogy, it’s like two guys who traveled the desert with one water bottle each. The first guy used his water wisely, while the second guy was wasteful of his water.

During their journey, the second guy asked the first guy for some of his water (which he really needs).

The first guy said: “You already drank a lot, while I, who drank very little might need my water later.”

The second guy called the first guy greedy, but knowing better the first guy wasn’t bothered at all.

Eventually they reached town and drank all the water they could have.

The thing is, if the first guy gave his water away, he could have suffered from dehydration, but he didn’t, because he was wise.

Second lesson to be learned

Have you noticed that my teacher didn’t even stopped my classmates, even if she somewhat knew that by giving away my materials, I wouldn’t be able to finish my project.

Learning from that, we must not expect other people to look after us (even if it is their duty).

I was still very young back then, so I didn’t know. Also, we’re trained to be obedient during that time.

Being obedient is not always good, but that needs another post….

Summary of Lessons

Lesson 1: It’s okay to be selfish sometimes.
Lesson 2: We must look after ourselves.

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The Kingdom Called the Internet

There was once a royal guard whose name was search engine.

Every time the king or queen needs to call upon citizens of the land called web pages, the royal guard would call upon their occupation and make them line-up.

The citizens were arranged depending on their rank. If his majesty wasn’t satisfied with the first citizen, he would tell the royal guard to send him away, and his majesty would then look at the next citizens who are in line, and so forth.

Therefore, citizens who would like to have an audience with royalty works on improving their ranks. Though, some are happy living normal lives, and just want to live happily with their peers.

Every day that’s how it goes in the kingdom called the internet.

The Website from Another World

Imagine for a moment that you’re a person who wants to create a new website—not just any website, a remarkable one.

You’ve seen the remarkable sites that people enjoy using: Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Instagram, and of course Google.

You’ve been inspired by all those successful sites that you said to yourself: “If only I can create a site like Facebook . . .  I’ll become rich . . .  and popular, too.”

But on the back of your mind, there’s that inner critic again, saying things like: “Dream on . . .  all of the websites that ought to be popular . . .  had already been invented.”

You don’t like what the inner critic said. But at the same time, you may be thinking that he or she may be right: All the popular websites have already been invented.

After that stream of thoughts, you felt sleepy and decided to take a nap—a long nap.

And during your slumber, you begin to have a dream. . . .

You’re in front of your computer, staring at a web browser. But you’ve noticed something different. . . .

Your bookmarks on the popular sites are all gone. In their place, are names of sites you haven’t visited in your entire life. Names like “artistmana,” “katkatlist,” and “alteraverse.”

You’ve decided to go to “alteraverse,” and when you did… you’ve been blown away. The site’s design is simple, but it provides a service that still doesn’t exist in your home world.

You were delighted by that experience, and decided to visit the other two sites as well; the experience you had was the same with “alteraverse.” Those three sites are simply too cool for words to describe.

After that wonderful experience, you woke up. Feeling inspired, you’ve decided to make plans for your own site that resembles “alteraverse.”

To make the long story short. You’ve created your website, and people liked it because it was all new to them, it’s simply the first-of-its-kind in this world.

Your website became so popular that it had been ranked with Youtube, Twitter, and Facebook. Of course . . .  you became rich and popular, too.

So, what are you waiting for? Do you want to create your own “alteraverse”?

Those kinds of websites will become a reality—in the future.

They all started from a dream, from an idea.