Want a Better Life? Be Specific

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Let’s face it — people like us who seeks self-improvement want a better life, period.

But how do we exactly define a better life? I have a tip for you, don’t let the media or other external influences define what a better life is for you.

For example, the image of success primarily portrayed in the media is to have lots of money. If that’s your goal, then, it’s fine — there is nothing wrong about desiring money — money only allows you to be more of what you are. Money can help people; in fact, there’s this funny question: “When was the last time a poor person gave you a job?”

On the other hand, if you’re the type of person who’s content on living a quiet life, with only the bare essentials to spare — then, that’s fine as well. I’m not saying that to get both types of people to agree with me. I’m saying that because I believe that self-development is purely a personal matter.

If you’re going to let others tell you what you want in life, might as well call your endeavor group-development, not self-development.

After we figured out what we want, the next step is to be specific on what you want. For example, if you want to lose some weight, don’t just say to yourself that you want to lose weight, that’s vague. Instead, have an ideal weight in mind. If you’re weight 200 pounds for instance, and want to lose 20 pounds, then your target weight is 180 pounds.

Once you figured-out what you want specifically, then all you need to do is to make a plan, and take action. Monitor your progress, if it seems that your plan isn’t working (after sticking with it for a while of, course), then, modify your plan, then take action again. Continue the process until you have achieved your goal.

I could have made the above paragraph longer, but what I really want to point out in this post, is for you to know what you want specifically first — before taking action.

Know what you really want — not what others want for you — and be specific about it; then, make a plan before taking action. If what you’re doing doesn’t seem to work, then modify your plan, then take action again, until you get what you want. Then, celebrate for a better life!